Couples within the LGBTQ community often encounter distinct challenges in their
relationships that differ from those faced by heterosexual couples. These challenges
can stem from societal pressures, internalized feelings, and the complexities of identity
and expression. Understanding these unique struggles is crucial for fostering healthier
and more supportive relationships within the community.
The Lingering Effects of Being “In the Closet”
One significant challenge is the lasting impact of “being in the closet,” which can carry into future intimate relationships. The experience of concealing one’s true identity can profoundly shape a person’s personality, often inhibiting openness and the ability to express vulnerability.
Internalized Homophobia and Gender Expression
Gay and lesbian couples may also struggle with internalized homophobia and shame related to gender expression, particularly when discussing gender roles. This discomfort can lead to competitiveness, difficulty in compromising, or a reluctance to embrace roles that don’t align with societal expectations of gender.
The Complexities of LGBTQ Marriage
The legalization of LGBTQ marriage on a national level has introduced its own set of challenges. For some couples, there may be differing views on the importance of marriage as a way to “legitimize” their relationship.
Challenges in Open and Polyamorous Relationships
Couples in open or polyamorous relationships may face unique struggles as well. Jealousy, establishing the structure of the relationship, and setting boundaries that satisfy everyone involved can be particularly challenging.
Navigating Relationships When a Partner Comes Out as Transgender
If one partner comes out as transgender, the couple may face additional challenges. The cisgender partner might struggle with coming to terms with their partner’s new gender identity and how this shift affects their own sexual identity.
Conclusion
While LGBTQ couples face many of the same challenges as heterosexual couples, they also navigate a range of unique struggles related to identity, societal expectations, and internalized feelings.
References:
Schwartz, A., Yarbrough, E., & McIntosh, C. A. (2020). Sex and Relationship Issues in Work With the LGBTQ Community. FOCUS the Journal of Lifelong Learning in Psychiatry, 18(3), 277–284. https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.focus.20200014